Girls.
I haven’t always loved them like I do
now.
When I was a teenager, I really didn't like a lot of girls. I had a couple of girlfriends, but boys were always more interesting to me – and not
just for the obvious reasons. It seemed
like boys were just simpler creatures. No back biting, no double talk, no
hurtful gossip or vapid opining about clothes, makeup and getting asked to the
dance. With boys, I didn't feel this pressure to
act according to certain standards. I could be myself.
Twenty years later, it’s completely
different. I have a definite group of
core girlfriends that I could not imagine life without. I have a strong and loving relationship with
my husband. He is one of my best friends, but the emotional nourishment I get
from my girlfriends is a necessity in my life.
They challenge me. They call me on my shit. They cheer me on. Connecting with them fills my tank.
Before I was blessed with these
relationships, I just thought that I was a woman that really didn't like other women. I'm not alone; I've heard other women refer to themselves that way too.
I was wrong.
I love women. I’m always rooting for us.
I realized that I just don’t like stupid
women:
-whose only contributions
to a conversation are the labels on her clothes.
-who have no opinion or awareness of what’s going on with women in the world.
-who wait on a man to appear before they’ll start living.
-who can't or won't think for themselves; they have no imagination.
-who make everything a competition with other women.
-whose idea of a good time is tearing down other women.
-who have no opinion or awareness of what’s going on with women in the world.
-who wait on a man to appear before they’ll start living.
-who can't or won't think for themselves; they have no imagination.
-who make everything a competition with other women.
-whose idea of a good time is tearing down other women.
If you don't know this already, trust me: terribly
insecure women ruin lives.
When at all possible, I avoid these women like the
plague. I hope you can too. Life’s just easier that way.
My point is, I want the best for us. I want us to know that we can accomplish anything - we are smart enough, we work hard enough and there is enough for all of us. We don't need to hurt each other with our words. We don't need to want what another woman has and most importantly we don't have to accept what society says our lives should look like...at 20, at 30, at 40 and so on.
We just need to love and support each other.
My point is, I want the best for us. I want us to know that we can accomplish anything - we are smart enough, we work hard enough and there is enough for all of us. We don't need to hurt each other with our words. We don't need to want what another woman has and most importantly we don't have to accept what society says our lives should look like...at 20, at 30, at 40 and so on.
We just need to love and support each other.
