Last
week, it was my birthday. I turned
38.
I like getting older. Not necessarily the aches, but I love that every year I feels like I'm getting closer to the woman I want to be. Recently, my husband told me that
he’s noticed that I’m a lot calmer.
Definitely calmer since he met me 13 years ago. He said that I just don’t seem to let things
bother me like I used to. I
could attribute it to Yoga. I started practicing about 5 months ago, but that isn’t
the entire reason. Honestly, I just decided to let
some things ago.
On
this blog, I talk a lot about not worrying about what other people think. For me, that’s the only way I can live.
It’s the way I can be happy with my life.
It’s not an absolute – there is a select group of people whose opinion’s
matter to me, but I can count them on one hand; however, there is a counter
balance. It’s the impact your own opinions
have on you, on your mind. Let me
explain.
People tell me stories. Stories about their lives, their loves, their
relatives, whatever. Before, I'd get emotionally invested. I thought that was part of being a good listener, feeling the outrage or disgust and carrying it with me.
Do you know what that’s like? It’s
exhausting. I was tired of negativity renting space in my mind. So, I decided to divest. It wasn't a grand declaration; just a quiet shift. If you're telling me that the people in your life are being assholes or rude or
ingrates or complete fucking idiots, my new attitude is this – good for them. People are going to be who they are
and in the confines a second-hand tale, they are not my problem. Carrying around these stories, feeling that negativity it doesn't change the situation – not even a little bit. So?
Fuck it. Just fuck it. I got
it.
This
is the deal:
While it's a given that there’s
no point to worrying about what other people think, there is definitely no
benefit to worrying about what they do, especially if it has nothing do to with
you. They do whatever they want. Even if it’s irritating. Even if it’s a colossal mistake. Even if you can't believe they're doing that again.
My
world will still continue to turn.
And
so it does.
